if you've been sitting around waiting for somebody to discover you to pick you to save you to rescue to give you your shot is something happening like at some point you got to wake up and realize you have to parent yourself your life is your responsibility close your eyes retreat from your life disconnect from your body disconnect. For 20 minutes a day, disconnect from your schedule and allow yourself to believe in yourself and in the possibilities that are in front of you believe in yourself and you don't believe in yourself you don't believe in possibilities so then but if you have a community a living organism .
where it's becoming the new normal you want to join that living organism and you want to every every stride you make feeds the living organism every stride every effort you make to connect is is amazing because that which we are seeking is seeking us so the real question is what is it that you can fall in love with enough that makes all the fighting through the negative voice and all of that worth it so that's number one it's just to recognize that you've got a long timeline ahead of him so when you stop outsourcing your happiness your validation your support all of it and you bring it back in and you get responsible for it it sounds scary.
it's so liberating because you could do anything when you're responsible when you're the driver of your life when you're not looking out to anybody else to fix it for you can you ask for help of course but the buck stops with you you're the one that has to do the work you're the one who has to push your own ass you're the one who has to figure out what makes you happy you're the one who has to figure out and become self-aware about what you need and then you're the one that has to find whatever it is the courage of being humble enough to ask for help that's the eternal problem of life and the problem is there is the category of problems in life and it ain't going anywhere and so the question is can you deal with the whole category at the same time that's the thing that's how to be in the world to deal with that category all at the same time sacrifice what does that mean sacrifice well it's a discovery man it's the discovery of the future it's like the future is actually the place where there is threat it's always going to be there so what do you do you make sacrifices in the present so that the future is better right forestall gratification now and it'll pay off at a place in time that doesn't even exist yet it's like who would have believed that it's like that's a miracle that that occurs and it's not like people just figure that out overnight most people aren't obsessed with their goals because they don't believe they're worthy of them it's easy to dream about what you want but in between where you are and what you want there's a tremendous amount of stuff you got to change and do and if you have a lot of trauma in your background you have been given the message over and over Even though it's not true, you do deserve it.
Be defiant against what you do not deserve world or your caregivers or your past experience has pounded into your brain incorrectly unfairly you will forever be stuck with that story pain plus reflection equals progress and i think that that's incredibly incredibly true and the human animal just needs that bit of pain it is the compass that's going to allow you if you reflect on why you're feeling that pain what you did wrong how you failed you don't deflect you don't make it somebody else's problem you really just look at how did i put this up if you look at that and are willing to make the changes you really will make progress i don't see a way to really have grand scale change without the suffering that's the truth the idea is that nothing brings a better world into being than the stated truth now you might have to pay a price for that but that's fine you're going to pay a price for every bloody thing you do and everything you don't do you don't get to choose to not pay a You get to choose which poison you want to take just that much less like that the next time you say something .
if you do that for five years you'll be so damn tough and articulate and able to communicate and withstand pressure that you won't even recognize yourself and then you'll be a force to contend with you are not responsible for what happened to you you survived what happened to you but you do have a responsibility to heal yourself and to do the work to change so that you can be the happy fulfilled person that you were born to be can have a mindset that says through my efforts my attitude i can have an impact on the situation that's the power that i have that's where it begins begins with you self-confidence self-love self-esteem self-reliance self-awareness it all has the same self you have to give yourself those things you want validation give it to yourself you want to be cheered for give it to yourself if you want to feel supported in life start by giving those things to yourself because the most important relationship that you have is the one you have with yourself and you work on it the least you can have nothing and you can still have your own bag you can have tremendous problems and very real obstacles that you're facing and you can have a mindset that says through my efforts my attitude i can have an impact on the situation .
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